Upper management was feeling the heat. The boss’s boss’s boss needed to show the CIO that his division would not falter in a climate of adversity. To allay the perceived fears that the IT project would fail, the second highest executive on the totem pole made a decision.
When that decision trickled down to my team, it hit us in the form of an impersonal email. The underlying message was unapologetic – extra hours, lots of them. His ruling applied to an organization of about 500 people.
The extra hours were for show. He needed to prove he was an effective leader by making difficult staffing decisions. But the project didn’t need more man hours, it needed a better design.
That manager’s decision had a big impact on my daily life schedule. I spent an unusual amount of time away from my wife and kids during the month of December. This was Christmas time, birthday time, and family time I spent working above and beyond my regular call of duty, all in the name off covering some executive’s ass. Even if the project failed, he could say he did all he could. I didn’t even know who this person was.
I had lost control.
Employment vs. Entrepreneurship
I work for a small IT consulting company. The job suits my needs by providing the path of least resistance (nsfw) to financial independence.
Watching the owner navigate the ebbs and flows of market conditions over the past decade, I’m fairly confident I could leave the business and start my own company that would be at least equal to, or perhaps far exceed the success of my employer. Being close to the owner over many years, I know what it takes to run the business.
I’ve thought hard about starting my own business in the same industry, working with the same or similar customers, and providing the same services. But I haven’t done it.
If I think I could do it better, why not start my own business to be in complete control of my career?
Because I know what it takes and I don’t want to make those sacrifices. I know the risks and I don’t want to take them. I know how my life would change, and I don’t want to make those changes. And I don’t think I’d gain any control.
Am I afraid to start this business? No. Rather, I’m just not motivated enough, and not passionate enough about the potential endeavor to do what it takes to succeed. I also don’t think it’s a good business model, because it’s primarily a staffing business. You’re only as good as your weakest employee. Industry funding and budgets are decided on the whims of bureaucrats, like the executive who made that decision that ruined my December.
Weighing the pros and cons over and over, the conclusion is always the same. I like my current lifestyle, where my job is not stressful and I spend hours at home playing with my kids each day. On my current path, I have a plan to retire in 15 years. Severely changing course would likely alter my lifestyle and make me and my family less happy.
Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone. It may still be for me, but perhaps not in the same industry as my 9-5 job.
But what if I did own my own consulting business and make the rules. Wouldn’t I have complete control then?
The Customer is in Control
The owner of the company I work for has absolutely no control over his life. His business and his life, is completely contingent on his customers and employees. The customer pulls all the strings. When there is funding for a project, the company is paid. No funding, people are laid off.
If the customer says we need to work weekends, we work weekends. My boss won’t necessarily have to work the weekend too, but his employees do. And if they don’t like it, they’ll quit. Each one that quits is revenue and profit that is lost. He’s a slave to both the customer and the employees.
Despite my frequent suggestions that the owner sell the business, he continues on.
Customer and employee satisfaction is not only true in consulting. Think about an ice cream shop owner.
An ice cream shop provides a product to the customer. An employee is there to serve the ice cream, hopefully in a timely and friendly manner. The location needs to be a clean and pleasant atmosphere to consume the product. And of course, the product needs to taste good. If any of these components go wrong, the customer may not return. The store owner needs to live up to the standards of the customer, or jeopardize the validity of the business.
The owner may also have franchised the store, so he/she would then answer to the franchising operation. Then there’s the location, and the rent that goes along with it. And maybe the owner borrowed money to open the store. Now there’s a lender to answer to on a monthly basis too.
Does this business owner have total control?
Great business leaders and entrepreneurs have a way of maintaining complete control of the business, while still relinquishing most of the day to day tasks. They wake up with nothing to do, then delegate tasks while still maintaining control. For some this is natural. For others it’s learned over many years. For most everyone else, they never get it.
Perhaps more palatable for me is self-employment. The self-employed set their own hours and work as hard or as little as they want. They still answer to a customer, but aren’t subject to employee risk. Hire a staff and you’ve become a company. In my line of work, self-employment may ultimately be the key to an earlier, semi-retirement phase prior to my full retirement date. It offers added flexibility and more control while still generating income.
Habits of the Mentally Tough
During the time I was working those extra hours, I came across an article on Inc.com called 7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness by Jeff Haden. It’s a great article, click here to read it. There are seven gems in this article, but it was the first item that struck me – Always act as if you are in total control.
When I read that line, I immediately thought how can I act as if I’m in total control if this one asshole executive can snap his fingers and ruin my month.
I read on:
Most successful people do feel good luck played some role in their success. But they don’t wait for good luck or worry about bad luck. They act as if success or failure is totally within their control. If they succeed, they caused it. If they fail, they caused it. By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen. (And then, if you get lucky, hey, you’re even better off.) You can’t control luck, but you can definitely control you.
Reading this and applying it to my career, I realized that as long as I’m consulting for an organization such as my current one, part of my life will always be out of my control. Bad luck can come in many forms, like required extra hours, because I’ve chosen to subject myself to that risk in return for a steady paycheck.
But at the same time, I can control some outcomes, and can act (to both myself and to coworkers) as though I’m in control. Despite being annoyed, I worked harder than normal during December. My performance was recognized and I was promoted. Also, the more hours I worked, the more I was paid. I turned the time away from my family into a $10,000+ increase in income. When there’s overtime, I take it with the long-term goal in sight, instead of complaining.
Going back to Mr. Haden’s list, number five says:
So if something is wrong, don’t waste time complaining. Put that mental energy into making the situation better. (Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you’ll have to make it better.) So why waste time? Fix it now. Don’t talk about what’s wrong. Talk about how you’ll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.
Focus on impressing yourself instead of others, then count your blessings, he adds.
The Attainment of Control
Think about it, when you read about politics, business, sports and many other subjects, everyone is looking to gain more control; control of territory, power, market share, the pace of the game, and control of the ball.
When you read about personal finance, many of us are looking for more control as well. Pay off debt to get control of your life. Save and invest to early to get a handle on your retirement.
Financial independence is the ultimate form of control, because it allows for complete control of one of your most valuable assets, your time.
At times when I felt I’ve lost control of my time, like what happened last December, I think about what I need to do to gain it back. The answer to that is to keep doing what I’m doing, pursuing independence via the best way I know, buy saving and investing in my family’s future. To earn as much as possible while keeping expenses to a comfortable minimum.
While I haven’t reached the almighty financial independence yet, I don’t need my current job. We have enough assets to live off of for many years. That alone is empowering.
If the executives ever do something that is completely out of line that I don’t agree with, I don’t have to comply. I can quit, and comfortably go figure something else out. The power to quit is one of the many milestones on the way to financial independence.
So What Happened to the Project?
Regardless of the “bold” executive decision to ramp up the man hours and tackle the problems head on, the project did not meet its deadline. The overly-complicated system failed and they fell back on the contingency plan, just as the most experienced of us expected. It took a few more months of normal work week hours to fix the problem. Added man hours couldn’t replace a bad design. The solution was more time to put the pieces together.
Despite the failure, the executive office put on a brave face and declared success on the go live date anyways. No one really noticed or cared.
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Dividend Beginner says
Hi RBD,
Being in IT myself, I totally get what you’re saying about working more hours is pretty much pointless when the design is inherently flawed. And once you’re deep into the project altering the design could have all sorts of consequences. Software’s much like a complicated, delicate little flower.
It’s good that you know yourself that you’d rather be an employee than an owner; and I can relate to that. It’s just “easier”, and still aligns perfectly well with your goals – It’s just something you know you’d enjoy more and same here.
Best regards,
DB
Retire Before Dad says
DB,
Good to hear I’m not alone. Sometimes IT projects can be a joke and a huge waste of money. This one was both, but was still a necessity. That’s part of why I don’t want to become an owner in the industry. Many times, small companies are simply vying for a piece of the pie, and not always adding value.
Thanks for the comment.
-RBD
brian503 says
This is the gamble when you work for someone else, but sometimes its the lesser of two evils.
Financial Velociraptor says
I was in accounting/finance before FIRE. The same idiocy from the PHB on high still apply.
Income Surfer says
That sucks RBD, but we both know it’s pretty darn common. One thing I’ve always noticed about THE BEST leaders, is that they hire the best people and get those people to buy into the master vision/plan. Once that happens, the leader regains some control on their day to day activities.
I completely respect people, like yourself, who make the decision that being a business owner is not worth the sacrifice of dollars and time. Some people thrive on the sacrifice, but if you are just doing it for the money instead of the thrill……most businesses will limp along.
You and your family are doing great. Keep up the good work
-Bryan
American Dividend Dream says
Great post RBD. Sometimes I feel I have little control of my life but then I think about how much better off I have it than others and that brings me back to reality. I have no problem working for an employer right now because like you, it is the path of least resistance. I know that if I keep doing what I’m doing and take my 3% pay raises per year, I should be able to reach FI by around 40-45 depending on investment returns.
I’ll probably do some form of partial retirement like doing different jobs that I’ve always wanted or work part-time at my current job if I’m allowed. But, I’ll have the freedom and control to do what I want at that point.
Thanks for the post.
PelGirl says
Great, timely article. Having recently had my work ties severed, and upon quickly securing 2 other work options, I am struggling with whether to accept the more entrepreneurial avenue or take on the more 9-to-5 route, as I am looking at retirement in less than 10 years. You have given me a lot to consider, and also reaffirmed some similar thoughts I have. Not everyone SHOULD be an entrepreneur, and there isn’t anything wrong with that – with knowing your strong points and priorities.
Retire Before Dad says
I hear ya, PelGirl. Glad to hear you’ve bounced back so quickly with some new opportunities. I’m at a point in my career where my job security is fairly solid, so I don’t expect to be let go. However, if I was, I would make the most of it and really hustle for something better.
-RBD
our next life says
We struggle with this decision of continuing with our employers, who we’ve both been with for a long time, or striking out on our own. Like you, we don’t feel motivated enough to put in the effort necessary, especially since we’re looking at a 2 1/2 year timeline to ER, which doesn’t feel like long enough to really get things rolling. On the plus side, we’d then have a business in place that we could do a little work with after we retire, but on the negative, it could be a lot more work for less money (or more — who knows). But lots of great stuff in this post about mindset and how to think about issues at work. Thanks!
Retire Before Dad says
Thanks ONL. Yeah I’ve struggled with this over many years. Part of me wants to go all in and work my ass off for the next five years and then sell the business. But there’s no guarantee it would work, and I could miss out of some time with my young kids. I’ve also been with my employer for a long time. The funny thing is he thinks I’m loyal to him. But in reality, he just pays me better than the others would. I’d leave him in a heartbeat for more money.
With you two planning to retire so soon, definitely makes sense to ride out your current gigs.
-RBD